Tag Archives: observation

“Stars and Bars” – Observations

Stars and Bars

This flag was used as a navy jack at sea in the 1800s.
This flag was the battle flag for different corps in US history.
This flag has been linked to the Confederate States during the US Civil War.
This flag was used by the Democratic Party (also known as the Dixiecrats) who’s motto was “We stand for the segregation of the races.”
This flag has been used to represent oppression.
There are still countless numbers who see this flag as a symbol of a way of life, not of hate, but of hospitality and values.

Not everyone sees this flag as the same thing. Does this make every person who identifies with this flag a bad person?

I recognize this flag has significant historical value for many reasons.

There was a time for this flag to be flown.

That time has passed.

As my son likes to sing to me often, people need to “let it go” and move forward.

..end transmission..

The “First Year” Mark

I have heard about the infamous “First Year”. News flash to those who have not been there . It is nothing magical, the one year mark that is.
Honestly, the first year is “The Fog” phase. You walk through life on auto-pilot. Living life as best you can. You do what needs to be done. You don’t look for them, but moments creep up on you when you forget how to breathe.
The one year mark is significant. It marks the time when the rest of the world thinks your life should be all hunky dory. They expect you to “get over it”. This is the point when you are supposed to “suck it up” and “get on with life.” They are the ignorant ones.
You spend the first year taking care of “details”. Removing someones name from your insurance policy. Changing bank accounts. Filling out new paperwork for old accounts. Making sure you contact ALL the people you need to contact to make sure you have removed that person’s name from everything.
It is like erasing the person’s existence.
After a year of “removing” the person .. a year of finding your footing .. a year of telling the story over and over and over of what happened .. a year of trying to move on from what idiots say and do .. a year of trying to get used to sleeping ALONE .. a year of not touching the face of that person …
The one year mark .. when auto-pilot is disengaged .. when you have to sink or swim. The fog is gone. Now you see with clearer eyes the void beside you.
Think before you speak foolish ignorant words you can not take back. They can cut very deeply. Some cuts may never heal.